So even though I direct my comments to wives who have unbelieving husbands, the principles apply to us all, men and women alike. So Ephraim has become like a silly dove, without sense;They call to Egypt, they go to Assyria. In our marriages, this can be tricky. Therefore, a husband is to love his wife as Christ loves the church and died for her. "The fool says in his heart, 'There is no God.'" 22 The Lord hates those whose lips tell lies. But, again, if you as a wife must disobey your husband in order to obey God, you can do it in a submissive spirit, letting him know that you love him and want to please him, but it is more important that you obey God. imaginations, and imaginations realities.The. Unless otherwise noted, all Scripture Quotations are from the New American Standard Bible, © The Lockman Foundation, Related Topics: Evangelism, Marriage, Soteriology (Salvation), Women, Steve served as the pastor of Flagstaff Christian Fellowship from May, 1992 through his retirement in December, 2018. From 1977-1992 he was the pastor of Lake Gregory Community Church in Crestline, California. You may say, “Honey, I love you and I value our relationship. So you have a constant tug of war going on. In this lesson, we learn about Lady Folly. Where is the scribe? His name means ‘fool,’ and he is indeed foolish!” 1 Samuel 25:25 (NIV) Despite defying her husband and saying negative things about him, Abigail is commended for her actions. So Ephraim has become like a silly dove, without sense; ‘Is not their tent-cord plucked up within them? They left my office and the woman began to apply 1 Peter 3 to herself. Second, God never tells husbands to get their wives to submit to them. The things of God seem foolish to the unbeliever. Today’s Daily Bible Reading is from Proverbs 9:13-18. If you must confront, you should do it in as appealing a way as possible, so that your husband can see that you really care for him. But the hearts of foolish people shout foolish things. The tone of your voice and the words you speak reflect whether you respect your husband and are in submission to him, or whether you’re in a power struggle against him. Peter’s point is that the emphasis should be on attractive character qualities, which are imperishable, not on elaborate outward attractiveness, which necessarily fades with age. Scripture is clear that believers are not to be unequally yoked with unbelievers (2 Cor. But people who are lazy will be forced to work. Job 30:8 - Foolish men, without even a name.They were forced to leave the land. He who walks in his straightness fears יהוה, But he whose ways are crooked despises Him. There is a sense in which Christ submits Himself to the church in self‑ sacrificing service, but at the same time, clearly He is in authority over the church. But we can’t throw out the submission of wives to husbands so easily. I want to look at seven aspects of such attractive behavior and then answer three practical questions that arise. Copyright 1992, Steven J. Cole, All Rights Reserved. Proverbs 29:11 Fools vent their anger, but the wise quietly hold it back. Does it make my husband want to follow my Lord Jesus Christ?”. 3:7). I heard of a wife who fell into bed and exclaimed, “Lord, I’m tired!” Her husband calmly said, “My dear, in the privacy of our own bedroom, you can call me Jim.” Proper submission doesn’t require addressing your husband as lord. Answer: Abigail was one of David’s wives. 1 Peter 2:15 | View whole chapter | See verse in context For so is the will of God, that with well doing ye may put to silence the ignorance of foolish men: But even in such situations, a Christian wife must not provoke her husband to anger and she must display a gentle spirit. It's in the Bible, I Corinthians 2:14, NIV. 24 Hands that work hard will rule. For it is written, “He is the one who catches the wise in their craftiness”; without understanding, untrustworthy, unloving, unmerciful; Every man is stupid, devoid of knowledge;Every goldsmith is put to shame by his idols;For his molten images are deceitful,And there is no breath in them. Of course this requires great wisdom. That night my husband told me he knew God’s hand was in this and that he knew God would be faithful, even when we didn’t see it, even if it didn’t look like what we want it to look like. How should a godly woman deal with her husband’s constant verbal abuse? 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